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What’s the first thing that comes to your head when you think of Valentine’s Day? You probably think of love. In fact, that’s probably what most people think of – love. You’re not wrong; actually, you couldn’t be any more right. Valentine’s Day is all about love, but not in the right ways, and certainly not for the right reasons.
Like any holiday, Valentine’s Day is a huge money maker. One billion Valentine's Day cards are exchanged every year, according to nationalstationaryshow.com and the Greeting Card Association. That's 1,000,000,000. This makes Valentine's Day the second most popular card-sending holiday after Christmas.
Valentine’s Day wasn’t always about celebrating love, or making money. A long time ago the day commemorated the death of a Christian martyr named Saint Valentine (there may have been more than one St. Valentine, but that's another story). It wasn’t until the Middle Ages that Valentine’s Day started to become associated with love. In France and England, it was thought that February 14th was the beginning of birds’ mating season. This helped to influence the idea that Valentine’s Day should be a day for romance. The earliest association of Valentine’s Day with love is in Parlement of Foules (1382) by Geoffrey Chaucer. He wrote the poem to honor the first anniversary of King Richard || of England and Anne Of Bohemia’s engagement.
The major flaw in Valentine’s Day, other than the corruptive influence of money, is love. If love is the main “theme” of Valentine’s Day, wouldn’t that make the whole holiday a sham? Or worse, wouldn't that make the concept of love a sham?
Don’t get me wrong, love is great -- wonderful, in fact, but for some reason we like to pretend that it rises to the forefront of our collective conscience on Valentine’s Day. You don’t see a lot of people going out of their way to buy chocolates or flowers for their significant other on any other day of the year, or going on many fancy dress-up dates. Why should Valentine’s Day be any different than any other day of the year? Why should this one day be celebrated for love? Shouldn’t we celebrate love all the time? Having love celebrated only one day of the year makes people not appreciate the idea of love as much, or the idea of showing love. It creates pressure to give gifts to your special someone. The pressure would cease to exist if showing real love and affection weren't so “out of the ordinary” on a daily basis. Why isolate “love” and its fancy trappings to one day?
Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be necessary to remind you to express your love and appreciation for someone. There are 365 days in a year (366 in a leap year) where someone can show their admiration for people whom they care about. Valentine’s Day is only one of them, but it's the only one with one billion cards to show “affection.”
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